I attended Middleton Grange School from 1992 to 1998. I wasn’t the most academic student — I’m dyslexic — so school wasn’t always easy. But I absolutely had a blast. I became very familiar with the Principal’s office for over-zealous communications… let’s just say I wasn’t quiet! At the time, my teachers may not have seen it as a strength, but those communication skills have ended up being central to the work I do today.
Some of my favourite memories are the laughs with mates — the kind that stick with you for life. I made lifelong friendships at Middleton, and I look back on those years with real gratitude. Sport, camps, a bit of mischief — it all helped shape who I am.
After school, I went straight into youth work and spent over a decade leading 24-7 YouthWork, working alongside high schools and mentoring young leaders. During that time, I also completed my theological degree while working full-time — a challenge, but one that really grew my thinking and faith.
These days, I lead E Tū Tāngata — a national movement tackling Tall Poppy Syndrome and helping Kiwis rediscover their self-worth. What started as a bold idea has now become a nationwide initiative working across schools, workplaces, and communities.
Sport has continued to be a big part of my journey too. I was privileged to play for the New Zealand Men’s Netball Team, and I captained the side for 12 years — including when we won the World Cup final. That was a moment I’ll never forget.
My faith has been a constant throughout it all. God has brought the right people into my life at the right time — during my school years and still today. I’ve learned that even in tough seasons, He’s always working.
If I could share one thing with today’s students, it’s this: don’t be afraid to fail. In New Zealand, we can treat failure like it’s fatal — but it’s not. Failing means you tried, and that should be celebrated. The real danger is never giving it a go in the first place. Be brave. Be yourself. Your imperfections are what make you unique, and the world needs more people who are real — not perfect
Noho ora mai ra – Jay.